Everything in life is state-dependent. Because the things you are experiencing in life are just your state of mind. So happiness is. Yes, happiness is a state of mind. Like some people feel sadness in a situation, and in the same situation, some feel happiness. Because it depends on their state of mind. To understand this understand what is state and how we create a state.
What is State?
The state is the sum total of thoughts, emotions, and physical energy at any given moment. It is our way of being at any moment. Whatever you are experiencing right now or experience in any situation is just an event. For example; you are reading this blog is an event for you and I am writing this blog is an event for me. The whole day when you wake up and till you sleep you experience events only. These events create a state for you.
How We Create a State?
As I told you above whatever you are experiencing right now or experiencing in any situation is just an event. You perceive any event through five senses. In other words, any event is going in your mind or in your memory through the five senses.
Eyes: You perceive any event by seeing it. That is also called visual learning. You will see many memories of yours have visuals.
Ear: If any event has a sound you perceive it by its sound. Like you are talking to anyone, in that case, you perceive by your ear. This is called Auditory learning. Many memories of yours have sounds.
Skin: Many things you perceive by skin only. Like, the temperature and texture of anything. In psychology, it is also called kinesthetic learning.
Nose: You perceive some things by their smell. Like, you can not see the gas, even if you can’t hear or feel the gas. But you can identify it by its smell. In psychology, it is also called Olfactory learning.
Tongue: Eatable things you perceive by their taste. Food is sweet or bitter, you can’t identify it by its visuals, its sound its texture, or by its smell. You can identify it by its taste only. In psychology, it is also called Gustatory learning.
A large part of your memory has visuals, sounds, or feelings and their combination only. There is very little role for smelling and tasting in memory. The eyes, ears, and nose create the state.
Filteration of an Event
You don’t perceive any event as it is. like, you are reading this blog and this is an event 1 for you. But did not perceive the above text as it is. You deleted many words, and distort them accordingly. Then later you will generalize it. Another example; is when you go from one point to another point you delete many things that came your way. You distort a few things only and Generalize. This is also DDG(Delete, Distort, and Generalization) filtration. After filtration event 1 become event 2.
Think you can retain anything that you see, hear and feel. Our mind can retain only certain things and delete many things. Like you have deleted any data that you have read and remembered only a few. This is the deletion process.
After deletion, you save things in mind accordingly. This is not necessary for everyone to save the same thing. Suppose you are attending a lecture with 100 students. So, 100 students will distort the lecture by their own understanding. That’s why everyone’s perception of anything is different. This process is called distortion.
After distortion, many people generalize a few events. Understand it by example. Suppose a person is traveling on a bus and a thief steals his wallet. After a few days, his wallet was again stolen by a thief on the bus. After these events, people say everyone on the bus is a thief and that traveling on the bus is not safe. So this is his generalization, not the fact. Fact is those which is true for everyone. Like 2+2 = 4, the earth is rotating around the sun, etc. These are the same for everyone.
There are two types of Generalization; Universal truth or facts and Random Opinion.
Universal Truth: As I told universal truth are those which is true for all. That we call fact also. Like the earth is round, the moon is rotating around the earth, gravity, etc. This universal truth will not change for anyone.
Random Opinions: People generally have random opinions. These are not true for everyone. Some random opinions; life is uncertain, money is not good, love hurts, all happiness is in money only, and many more examples. These can be true for a particular person but not for everyone. Someone will not find happiness in money, for his nature or hanging with his family member is happiness. So happiness is a state of mind.
State of Mind
After the filtration process of event 1, event 2 is created. The event created after filtration is the programming of your subconscious mind. You can say your memory. So people have only event 2 in their mind. This is also called the state of mind. The state is also known as perception, mood, zone, form, etc. That’s the reason we generally say I am not in good mood today or I am in good mood today. Who decides your mood, your state of mind?
There are two types of State of mind; a Positive State of mind and a Negative State of mind.
Positive State of Mind
This state is also known as a Resourceful state. Here resourceful means that when you are in these states, you can get access to the inner resources that you have. You have also felt that when you are in a positive state of mind you see your future clear and find many ways for your future. You feel happy and joyful. That’s how Happiness is a State of Mind.
A positive state is a state of Confidence, happiness, delightfulness, concentration, ecstasy, decision making, love, flexibility, playfulness, mindfulness, etc.
Negative State of Mind
This state is also known as an Unresourceful state. It means that though you have all the resources because of these states, you can’t get access to your resources. This is the state of sadness, guilt, fear, phobia, discomfort, confusion, depression, frustration, etc.
Now, it is clear how the state creates and how everything just depends on the state of mind.
You act according to your state of mind. If you will act in a negative state or unresourceful state your life will be negative and if you will act in a positive state or resourceful state your life will be positive and full of resources.
How do change the State of Mind?
To change your state from negative to positive, NLP can help. Basically, NLP is a technique that helps you to change your event 2. In other languages, NLP helps in reprogramming the subconscious mind. So that you can come into a positive state of mind.
An easy technique that you can use to change your state of mind is Pattern Breaking.
Whenever you find yourself in a negative state of mind notice your physiology, breathing, facial expression, and internal voice. Generally, during a negative state, these 4 things changed. Your shoulder gets down, you start taking shallow breaths, the facial expression of sadness no smile on your face, and an internal voice full of negativity. You feel unconfident.
In such a situation just change your physiology, up to your shoulders, and broaden your chest. Take a deep breath, and make your breath normal. Change your facial expression, and bring a smile to your face. And change your inner voice, say to yourself you are confident and everything is fine. After changing these 4 things your state will change automatically into a positive state.
Flow chart for a state of mind of extreme happiness –
After reading this now you have understood that’s why Happiness is a State of Mind. So, be in a positive state of mind and be in a resourceful state.
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Saurabh Goel is the founder of Brain Soul & You. He is an Entrepreneur, Author, Brain Performance coach, NLP Wellness Coach, Life Coach, Brain Analyst, and Trainer for Education, Corporate, and Entrepreneurship.